Only You Can Replace the Lies

We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.
— 2 Corinthians 10:5 TPT

The battle that wages war on our minds doesn’t stop with just knowing about what the bible says. There is more than one voice coming against your thought process and your victory lies in being able to identity the lies (like we talked about in the last video), but most importantly, replacing those lies with truth.

Because the only thoughts that can stay, lingering around in your precious mind and heart, are the ones that you allow.

That’s not condemnation, that’s freedom!

You have a choice. We all do. We may not always get to decide what thoughts come through our minds, but we do have a say in which ones get to set up camp, start a bomb-fire and start making s’mores. It’s freedom because we’re not the victims anymore. We’re the ones in control.

Girl, remember to not be so hard on yourself and please cut yourself some slack. We live in a world that basically programs us to live off emotions, feelings and uses your thoughts as a blueprint to your heart. But it’s not true.

You are more than mere feelings, emotions and your thoughts aren’t always your own. Don’t just accept them so easily. Know the truth and then start replacing those lies with something that will bring you hope, truth and encouragement. Because that’s what Jesus came here to do, to give you the power to choose Him over everything else.

Don’t give up. Don’t get discouraged. Continue the battle and you will win. It’s already a guarantee :)


For the Girl Who Graduated...


Graduating is such an exciting time. New seasons, new possibilities and the future is open and bright. The only problem with this is that life seldom meets our bright-eyed and inexperienced expectations and in turn, can cause huge disappointments, frustrations and sometimes, even a loss of hope that things will ever turn out great.

But life is so much more than unmet and unrealistic expectations. It’s a journey with twists and turns, ups and downs, mountains and valleys, and ultimately, a destination. It’s packed with lessons, problems and achievements you never thought were possible. It will lead you down unknown territory and bring you out on the other side a more confident, powerful and impactful person. That is, if you allow it to do so…

So whether you’ve just graduated from high school, college or an internship and are getting ready to head out into the big, bad world, or you’re entering a new season of life and are ready to see something grand happen, then I want to write this to you…

Don’t be in a hurry, the right man will come at last.
— Jane Austin, Pride and Prejudice
  • Ladies, don’t worry. He’s out there! The love you’ve always wanted will find you when you keep your heart set on God. Allow Him to mold you into a woman ready for it.

  • But once he does find you, give your Prince a break! He’s dealing with just as much insecurity and fear as you. Fill in his weaknesses, don’t point them out.

  • On the road to marriage there will be many a suitors who will find you. Don’t let your relationships define you. You are worth more than how people treat you.

  • Guys are just as emotional as women! FOR REAL!

  • Never be afraid to be yourself. If it’s not what he wants, it’s not worth your time.

  • Don’t be so quick to give your heart away. It’s far more valuable than a dinner and a movie.

  • NEVER feel like you ever owe your body to someone who hasn’t vowed his fully over to you.

  • It’s okay to cry.

  • It’s okay to move on.

  • You need someone who challenges you. Don’t settle for fluff.

  • Wait for a guy whose dreams you can chase, and who wants to chase your dreams too.

  • Don’t be afraid of someone who is different than you. How boring would it be to be married to YOU!

  • Learn to cook… and fast!

  • PLEASE budget your money! It will save you so much trouble down the road.

  • Always be generous with your time. People will need you to just be there.

  • Girl friendships are hard! It’ll be okay…

You must give up the life you planned in order to live the life that is waiting for you.
— Joseph Campbell
  • Don’t be afraid to dream big. It’s going to take you to places you could never imagine.

  • I know you think you have your 5 and 10 year plan, but if you take a chance on God, He will exceed your plans. Trust me, He’s WAY more creative than you are.

  • This world is so much bigger than your small town. Go see it!

  • No matter the culture, language or age, people all want to feel valued. You can give that to them.

  • The bible will keep you centered. Read it like you mean it!

  • Don’t take yourself too seriously. You’re going to fall down a lot. But always remember to get back up, learn and move forward.

  • Give grace to others who fall down.

  • Try your best not to judge. It leaves something icky inside you.

  • People are all trying to find happiness. Don’t be in a hurry to assume intentions.

  • Every single person in this life, at some point, will let you down, because people are imperfect. Find value in God. He’s got you covered.

  • Don’t be so quick to think you’re over your insecurity issue. It starts to flare up once you get married.

  • Give grace to yourself first. If you won’t give it to you, you won’t give it to others.

  • Never think you know everything. Learning is a part of growing and the moment you stop learning, you stop growing. Don’t be a baby.

  • Always have faith. It’s the power to bring what you hope for into your reality.

  • Share your gifts with others. You will sow into your future.

  • Not every opportunity is from God. Don’t be in such a hurry to make big decisions.

  • Stay humble. It opens doors.

  • You’re not always wrong.

  • You’re not always right.

  • Too much word and you dry up. Too much spirit and your blow up. Put them together and you grow up. Live in balance.

Life’s what you make it. So let’s make it rock!
— Hannah Montana
  • Live loud. You’ll get easily distracted if you don’t.

  • Don’t read between the lines. People usually aren’t that deep.

  • The mountains are always a wonderful place to go and talk to God, but remember He doesn’t live there. He lives in you.

  • Be fierce in your convictions but quick to admit fault.

  • There’s a LOT you can learn from people who disagree with you, whether it’s to point out something new or to help you understand why you believe in something.

  • You can’t put God in a box. So He did it for you. It’s called the bible. Read it and don’t get weird.

  • Don’t debate with people to make your voice be heard. Dig out what’s going on in people’s hearts and then value what you find.

  • You’ll NEVER guess the ending to Gossip Girl!

  • Contrary to popular belief, you don’t find love in a hopeless place. You find mistakes. Tread lightly.

  • But never let a mistake become a part of who you are. Instead, lend a helping hand to freedom for someone else.

  • There is nothing the devil can do to you without your cooperation. His threat is real but his power is weak. Don’t fear him.

  • Your dreams will help people you’ll never meet. Don’t pursue them for recognition.

  • Sometimes you won’t get treated fairly. Your promotion comes from God. Wait for it.

  • Voices will tell you you’re the only one who struggles with “blank.” It’s NEVER true.

  • Sometimes counterfeit opportunities come right before the God ones do.

  • It usually feels suckiest right before an exciting season.

  • Every chapter in the story of your life can lend itself to the bigger picture. Don’t get distracted by what lies ahead. Keep your focus on writing this season well.

I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this; however I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus. So let all who are fully mature have this same passion, and if anyone is not yet gripped by these desires, God will reveal it to them. And let us all advance together to reach this victory-prize, following one path with one passion.
— Philippians 3:13-16 TPT

There’s no need to fear the unknown when you’re walking hand in hand with the Creator. He knows what lies ahead and He’ll lead you, not with a 20-step plan to total fulfillment, but with a one-step-at-a-time drawing that will lead you on the greatest journey you will ever know.

There’s a life that is waiting for you. Now here’s to the journey!


How Well Do You Know His Truth?


Do you ever feel like your thoughts and emotions are in control of your life? You know how to act but then those pesky thoughts come and start bubbling up those darn emotions and then suddenly you look at yourself and go, “Who is that crazy person?”

You’re not crazy and you’re not alone! We all have to deal with what goes on in our heads but we don’t have to deal with it in our own strength.

If you’ve been wanting to see changes in your thought life, your emotions or your overall joy and peace, then this is the first and most vital step to getting you there.

Enter the 3 Keys to Winning the Battle in Your Mind Mini Challenge!

The first key to not just surviving but actually winning those everyday battles going on in your mind and heart, is to get so familiar with His truth, that when anything contrary starts rising up on the inside of you, it’s easier to recognize it and your soul will have the opportunity to start lining up with life.

For if you embrace the truth, it will release more freedom into your lives.
— John 8:32 TPT

Notice that we have to embrace truth. It doesn’t just automatically happen because we’re Christians or we mean well. It’s an intentional act by us to cling to His truth rather than to our thoughts or emotions. Because those things are not only temporary, but generally untrue and unreliable. If we want to live overcoming, powerful and impactful lives, then we can’t be so easily swayed by every thought and whim of emotion. We muse become stable. We must secure our hearts on His truth.

Check out part one of the new Summer Mini Series and let’s start becoming secure women of truth!


Is Modesty Meant for Modern Girls?

Be a girl with a mind, a woman with attitude and a lady with class.
— Anonymous

It’s a tricky line to walk.

On one hand, we all, deep down perhaps, want to be a lady, or at least know we should. Sure we can be dramatic, emotional and a bit silly but at the end of the day, those inspiring quotes we post on our bathroom mirrors in blushing pink lipstick point to the serious, sophisticated and womanly way we wish to see ourselves.

We praise girls in the church who seem strong and feminine and criticize and judge the ones who’s hem line is a bit too short. We laugh at the ones who’s outfit reminds us of that amish movie we saw on Netflix and secretly hate the girl who’s outfit is everything we want to be and more… but would never wear!

Does anyone have any earthly idea what we Christian gals are supposed to be striving for when it comes to modesty? Do we have any thought whatsoever what the word “modesty” even means in our modern world? Is it even a word we should apply to ourselves because come on, we’re not in bible times anymore, right?

How do we walk this delicate tightrope between holy and hot? What’s a girl to do when she get’s dressed in the morning and wants to look attractive but not a bimbo… do we still say that? And is it wrong for a godly gal to even WANT to look good? Where’s the dang guide book on this thing!

I believe the first place to start is in debunking the myth that modesty is strictly about the clothes you wear. For it starts far from anything you put on.

Think about it, everything in the Christian life is about transformation from the inside out. The Jews were full of laws, do’s and don’ts, rights and wrongs. They were plagued by a list of rules and regulations that when Jesus came to teach them a new way to live, they kept reverting back to what they DO, when Jesus was speaking to who they WERE.

Later Peter approached Jesus and said, “How many times do I have to forgive my fellow believer who keeps offending me? Seven times? Jesus answered, “Not seven times, Peter, but seventy times seven times!
— Matthew 18:21-22 TPT

I know what you’re thinking… What the heck does forgiveness have to do with how I dress? I know, just give me a sec.

Peter thought he was going to impress Jesus by how much he was willing to forgive (an action) someone who had wronged him… seven times. Jesus was like, “Peter, come on now. You’re missing the point. There should be no end to how often you extend forgiveness to someone because it is no longer an action you must take but it will be an overflow of your identity in me.”

Everyone kept pointing to what they must do and Jesus kept pointing them back to such a high standard, it would take someone with beyond human abilities to be able to live like that. Enter, the Holy Spirit.

When you became a Christian, you didn’t just enter a club that has it’s set of rules (like in those really strict Facebook groups) about what you can and cannot do, and you are now bound to an endless life of frustration between what you really want to do and what a good Christian girl “should” do.


You were changed from the inside. Your old spirit was done away with and you were given a new spirit identical to Jesus. Yes, you are identical to Jesus… in your spirit. It’s our souls we’re workin’ on. So wouldn’t it make more sense to assume that modesty (like everything in this life) begins at a heart level and works it’s way out into how we dress, act and treat others?

It doesn’t take a skimpy outfit for a girl to be dripping with lust in her heart. A girl who’s heart is set on God while lying in a bikini on the beach, can be more modest than that girl in the maxi dress who’s heart is full of lust. Yes I said it… LUST! It’s not a dirty word but it dirties our souls. It keeps the life of God from flowing through us and hinders our growth, joy and peace.

So before we get dressed (or after, I don’t care) let’s take a quick heart check. Because if Christianity is all about the inside flowing out, then we might want to make sure our insides are lining up with what we want reflected on the outside.

If we want to live lives that represent God and become women of strength, dignity and power, then we must begin to look at what’s going on in our hearts. Because there will never be a set of rules for what clothes you should and shouldn’t wear (I think we can use a bit of common sense here too!). You weren’t called out of darkness and into His marvelous rules, but into his light. Become so familiar with it that it starts to shine out of you in everything you do, including your clothing choices.

The more time you spend in His presence, the more your soul will be conformed into His image and the more wisdom, maturity and understanding you’ll have to make the right decisions at the right time.

I’m NOT saying clothes don’t matter. But I believe the solution isn’t found in the closet, but rather in the journey our hearts are on. Spend more time focusing on what’s going on there and you’ll arrive at the place you want to be… beautiful, powerful, and inspiring other girls there’s a better way, too.

Write your story well… and hey, look good while doing it ;)


Getting Over Other People's Opinions


It’s everywhere we look…

How many likes did I get?

How many shares?

Who sent me a heart?

How many friends or followers do I have?

What’s your status?

What’s your title?

What’s your 10-year plan for accomplishing all of your dreams?

It’s basically impossible to go through this life without having to deal with other people’s opinions of you, your life, your choices, and basically everything in between. The goal isn’t to snuff out the opinions of others, but the learn how to hear them in a healthy way by being respectful of others and yourself.

You are not a product of other people’s opinions, but of your own choices.

At some point we have to take responsibility for our own lives and realize that it’s okay if someone doesn’t like us. You weren’t created to please other people but to please God. And sister, let me tell you what pleases God… faith.

 It takes faith to believe what God says about you. It takes faith to believe that you are His beloved Daughter in whom He gave His own life for. It takes faith to believe that no matter what you do, don’t do, say or don’t say, or how holy you live your life, you can never change His opinion of you because it was decided in His heart a long, long time ago. That takes faith. And it pleases your Father when you choose His opinion over others’.

 But it’s not always easy. Sure we may understand to a point how God sees us, but we’re constantly reminded of everyone else’s opinion of us and our actions to the point where it becomes our default meditation. You don’t have to try and compare yourself to others. You will have to intentionally set your mind on God and His truth.

 Now, I feel like I need to say this one thing here because I think a lot of girls tend to be just rude, short and judgmental, and then when other people don’t like them, they say, “well I don’t care what you think.” Well sure, God still loves you and you can be rude and He won’t change His mind, but being a mean person is just being a mean person and it’s going to seriously stunt your growth in God.

So let’s not use our freedom in God to hurt or judge other people. But let’s set a higher standard as Christian women of what it means to be confident in who we are and yet humble enough to lend a helping hand for those who aren’t quite there yet.

It’s true we’re not called to imitate other people but we are called to imitate Jesus. And if you take a look at His life, He wasn’t obsessed with what people thought of Him, but He was also humble, friendly and full of love and acceptance for others. He’s our role model and the only life we should be mirroring ours after.

 So don’t stress out about the opinions of others. Get yourself a few good people around you who have proven how much they care, and then take what they say with a grain of salt, brining everything before God, who is able to search your heart and bring up what needs a looking at.

 Be strong, but moldable. Be secure, but teachable. Be true, but humble. And always look to Jesus for your security. I promise, He’s the only one who will never let you down.