How to Make the Most of Your Single Life

Be delighted with the Lord. Then he will give you all your heart’s desires.
— Psalm 37:4 TLB

Ever wonder if that day will ever come? When Prince Charming enters the scene, sweeps you away on his full-time job + benefits and whisks you off to a tropical paradise honeymoon where your love story can finally begin?


Well let me be the first to tell you that IT WILL HAPPEN!

Maybe not in the exact way that you picture it, but if you have a desire to get married, to share your life with someone who truly loves you, then you can rest assured that those are good desires and God only has good things in store for you. Even though it may be hard to imagine it right now, once he does enter the scene, everything moves pretty fast and before you know it, you’re a wife with roles and responsibilities. You’re money isn’t just yours anymore it’s “our” money. And your weekly trips to Anthropology and the nail salon might not make it into your shared monthly budget for a while.

While marriage is incredible and completely worth the wait, there are a few things that I have found (whether through experience or lack thereof) that will help prepare you not just for the day you say “I do,” but for every single day that follows. #marriage

 So, without further a due, here are four things that I believe every single girl should take advantage of… before it’s too late!


1.     Invest in Building a Strong Relationship with God


This is by far the greatest piece of advice I can give you as a fairly new wife. Getting your security and sense of value from God, is the absolute greatest gift you can give to your husband. It’s SO unbelievably tempting to try and get that feeling of security, value and desirability from your husband, but trust me, it ALWAYS backfires.

Not to say that your husband shouldn’t value you, help you feel secure in his love for you and desire you, but if you NEED that to feel emotionally okay, then you will go through some very difficult times as well as put a lot of pressure on him to always make you feel emotionally secure.

Jeff and I fought a lot during our first year of marriage and looking back, I can honestly say that most of it was because of my own insecurity. Because I had been so burned by guys in the past, I would project those feelings of rejection and self-preservation onto him, a punishment that wasn’t his to take. It wasn’t until I realized that I couldn’t depend on Jeff to fulfill me in the way only God was supposed to, that I took that awful pressure off of him and we finally began to love each other the way we were always meant to: selflessly and with an attitude of giving.

This will not only change your marriage, but it will also change your life. If you can get to the point where your emotional health isn’t based on the people around you, but rather on God and His word, then you’ll be able to love those around you, regardless of how they treat you. And that my friends is a strong woman.


2.     Get a Budget


Seriously just do it! Before I got married, I was just living paycheck to paycheck, making it through my monthly bills and spending what remained on weekend sales at Express and Chipotle burrito bowls. It was great, but once I got married, I had no idea what I was doing with my money. I always thought since I wasn’t a “numbers girl”, that God would just have to give me a husband that was.




Although Jeff is great with a lot of things, neither of us was really apt to budgeting or working with our finances. After a year of living small and afraid to check our bank account, I finally downloaded Dave Ramsey’s Every Dollar App and started our fist budget.

It’s so simple but it wasn’t always easy and it took us a few months of messing up and starting from scratch until we were able to start seeing tangible results. But just 14 months since our first feeble budget, we were able to get out of all credit card debt, pay off one car, pay cash for another, buy our first home and travel to Disney World 3-4 times per year (I may write a blog post about how we are able to travel to Disney World so much for those who might be interested). Imagine if I had been doing all this while I was single!

If you want to have a marriage or life where you own a home, don’t have any car payments (yes it is possible!) travel and take vacations and give to others in need, then you need to start planning for that now.

And did I mention we did all of this without getting a single pay raise? It was just through budgeting our money and staying consistent, even when it didn’t seem like it was accomplishing much. If you’re serious about living your best life with your future Mr. then start investing in your marriage now and start that budget!


(Watch my video on how to set-up and maintain your monthly budget here! Nothing is stopping you from living the life you dream of)


3.     Invest in Your Girlfriends


Once you get married, it becomes really easy to seclude yourself from all your friends (especially your single friends) and pretty soon, you drift apart and your husband becomes your new “girlfriend.” Trust me, this won’t be healthy.

Having a husband is great and it’s vital that you learn to communicate with each other, but they can never take the place of having your own friends that you can spill every detail your pretty little heart desires.

I didn’t understand this at first and I was that girl that drifted away from a lot of her friends. It wasn’t until about a year into our marriage that I started reaching out more and scheduling time to meet up with other girls (yes you have to start scheduling more once you’re married). After getting back from a coffee date or a girl’s night out, I would feel so refreshed and heard that I wouldn’t put so much pressure on Jeff and he would likewise feel better after having some down time with the guys.

Learning how to be a good friend now is going to help in learning how to be a good wife later. And once that handsome guys comes along, remember the girls that got you to where you are and make an effort to stay in their life.


4.     Get Familiar with Your Dreams


I cannot think of anything more miserable than being married to someone who either doesn’t have big dreams or doesn’t support the big dreams I have. Listen, that guy might be cute, smell nice and have an accent that makes you melt, but if he’s not ambitious about his life now, or even worse, if he doesn’t support your dreams or ambition, then all those things you love will quickly fade.

Marriage isn’t about the wedding day, the wedding day is the start of a marriage and who you decide to link arms with for life is a serious decision, one that should take a lot of care and thought. But if you don’t know your dreams or have no idea what you want out of life, then how will you know if this guy is on board?

I am NOT saying that you have to have it all figured out. I used to struggle with this because I didn’t think I had a clear picture of my future. I just had desires to write, speak and make a difference somehow. One day, I was listening to a teaching by John and Lisa Bevere called “The Story of Marriage” and Lisa said something that inspired me. She said that sometimes it’s not all about the “what,” but about the “who,” and then you’ll find your “what.”

She wasn’t saying you can’t have a dream or a purpose without a husband, but she was saying that things might seem a bit fuzzy now because part of your purpose and destiny is tied to the person you marry.

For me, this is 100% true. Not only has Jeff helped bring clarity to the dreams I have, helping me, pushing me and encouraging me when I didn’t even believe in my own dreams, but he has also opened up a whole new world to me through his dreams. I can see myself doing things now that I would have never thought to do because of him. You need to get in touch with your desires, but understand that who you marry is going to bring clarity to your life. Just make sure the picture he’s painting is one that you can get excited about too.


There’s so much more I could say about what do to while you’re single, but these I feel are my top four tips and if you can invest in these, then when your guy shows up, you’ll be able to walk confidently and boldly into this next chapter of your life, knowing that you’ve made the best of this season.

Your single years don’t have to be a burden. Instead, they can be the time that ultimately propels you into everything God has in store for your future, including marriage.

Live intentional during this time and you will end up writing this chapter of your story well,


How to Overcome Chronic Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy.
— Theodore Roosevelt

We’ve hear it a million and one times… comparison is the thief of joy. It won’t make you happy, you’ll be miserable and it will keep you trapped to other people. And yet we still do it… ALL THE TIME! It’s one of those issues we all agree is wrong and detrimental, and yet it’s also one of the most widely accepted habits in our world, almost to the point where it’s considered normal and part of everyday life.

Yes comparison is something that everyone has or is dealing with, but it didn’t originate with our modern technological world, like so many would like to believe. “It’s not our fault! It’s our modern society!” Absolutely not… Comparison is an ancient problem that’s been around since the days after the fall of mankind. When Cain and Abel both offered sacrifices to God, Abel’s was accepted but Cain’s was not. Immediately Cain began to compare himself to his brother and this led to quite the turn of events.

Cain talked with Abel his brother [about what God had said]. And when they were [alone, working] in the field, Cain attacked Abel his brother and killed him.
— Genesis 4:8 AMP

Now, this might seem a bit extreme, but comparison doesn’t produce any life in us, but rather discontent, frustration, greed and possibly even anger. It’s a ploy of the enemy he’s been using since the beginning and his goal is to steal away your strength and in turn, disrupt your future.

We all know the famous words of Teddy Roosevelt, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” We know, we know, comparison doesn’t make us happy.

NO! It is literally stealing away your joy!

But why is that important? Let’s compare this quote with scripture…

...for the joy of the Lord is your strength.
— Nehemiah 8:10 ESV

So now if comparison is the thief of joy, and the joy of the Lord is your strength, then that must mean that comparison ultimately zaps you of all your strength and energy! Can you see the subtly in this! We all know comparison usually makes us unhappy with ourselves, but I bet most of us haven’t ever thought of it stealing away our own strength.

Have you ever woken up ready to take on the day? You get inspired by new ideas and you can’t wait to implement them into your blog, brand, business, home or life. Then you open Instagram and the scrolling begins. You pass over photo after photo of insta-perfect lives with their insta-perfect kids, the perfect fishtail braids and perfectly scripted captions (perhaps just what you were wanting to share that day, but now…) You start to compare yourself to the numbers under their profiles and slowly you begin to question if your ideas are really that good after all.

You go about your day with a little less enthusiasm as before and by the day’s end, you’re exhausted and mentally drained, yet you really haven’t done much. Or is this just me?

I would get super excited about what I wanted to do and the things God was showing me, but then I would log on to social media and without even fully realizing it, I would compare myself to every other blogger out there… “well she’s got this program, maybe I should be doing that. Well she’s got this many followers on her podcast, maybe starting one is a stupid idea after all… “ It’s a never ending cycle of comparison that is quite quickly chipping away at my own strength. Before I know it, I feel as though I’ve worked an entire day and it’s only lunch time! My ideas seem small and insignificant and I quickly dismiss them as child’s play.

Although this is an age-old problem, our modern society has definitely made it a million times easier to make comparison a daily part of our lives, like drinking our morning coffee. But if this habit of comparing ourselves to other people in our lives (and usually those we’ll never meet) is truly this troubling on our souls, then what’s the answer? How can we combat this comparison game in a cyber world?

Hannah was a woman well versed with comparison…

While she held the heart of her husband, his other wife held their 10 children, leaving Hannah with a lonely spirit and a sense of failing as a wife. Everyday, she had to look across the breakfast table at Elkanah (her husband) and his “other” wife as they got their children fed and ready for the day. She probably noticed the look on Elkanah’s face as he looked into his son’s eyes. She could also see the look on his other wife’s face as she gloated under the admiration of the man they both loved.

But Hannah's breakthrough didn't come while stalking and sulking over what she didn't have. She turned to God for her answers and got back more than she could have possibly imagined. She brought her petitions to Him and trusted God to be her defender, provider and ultimately, to get her sense of worth and value from the One who made her.

Scripture records these next five words which I believe God is trying to speak to all of His daughters today…

...and the Lord remembered her.
— 1 Samuel 1:19

Hannah went on to have a son named Samuel who became one of the most well-known Prophets of the Most High God, anointing both King Saul and King David to the throne. God’s plan for Hannah was quite unique, but it didn’t come to pass until she gave her worries, comparisons and frustrations to God, allowing Him to speak His will into her existence.

God has a plan for your life but it isn’t going to look like HER life or HER calling or HER purpose.

And you won’t find His plan for you by looking at someone else’s life, comparing your insides to her outsides and competing with someone who isn’t running your race. If the shoe isn’t fitting right, then it’s probably not your size! And if you’re tripping up and not getting very far, then you’re probably trying to run someone else’s race.

We need to stop getting so distracted by what’s going on around us and begin to press in to what God is speaking to us individually. He formed you for a purpose, crafted you for a reason and scribed the story of you life in eternity. But it doesn’t happen automatically. God partners with us to accomplish his will and we are joint heirs with Christ to do good works on this earth.

Here’s a crazy thought, do you realize that your race doesn’t finish after your life on this earth? We will be spending an eternity with God in his Kingdom and if we don’t learn to run our race well here, then we’ll certainly learn to there. I don’t know about you, but I want to give it my all down here so I can experience everything God intends for me in this life and the next.

That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.
— Galatians 5:26 MSG

You are an original and you won’t live up to your full potential while you’re trying to look like someone else. Fight the habit to compare and give yourself a mental detox. Refocus and realign your thoughts on God’s thoughts and listen as he whispers to your soul, “I remember you. You’ve never left my mind.”

In a world of cyber comparison, be the exception and give others a reason to find value and worth within themselves.

Live original,


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Finding Your Purpose Along the Journey

The two most important days in life are the day you are born and the day you discover the reason why.
— Mark Twain

So you want to know your purpose?


You were created to be a Daughter of purpose, to know and be known and to advance your Father’s Kingdom on this earth. It’s a mighty call and a noble one, too. No one else reflects the heart of God the way you do and it’s part of the adventure of our lives to learn what that looks like and to walk it out with Him. 

But sometimes we look at our purpose as a piece of pie and if we don’t dish out our piece soon, there won’t be any left for us. But that is not how it works in the Kingdom of God. There is enough in this world for every single person on the planet to operate in his/her purpose to the fullest right now. God is really that big. So relax, take a breath and give your worries, cares and concerns over to a Father who has bigger plans for you than you could ever dream of yourself. 

I’d like to propose the idea that our purpose isn’t simply a destination to be found and once we do, we’ve “made it” and now we can just die. But what if our purpose was more about the journey we take and how God is able to mold, shape and mature us into the daughters he had always intended for us to be? 

I'm not saying that you need to become someone else to be usable by God!  But what if the person God created you to be was already inside you, just waiting for a chance to be made known?

In your spirit, you are everything you could ever hope to be.

You are perfect, you are righteous, you are free. But the cares of this world, the mistakes we make and that are made to us, tend to cover and distort our image, not only to the world but to ourselves. We start to believe that we are the hot mess we so often feel like and if we could just obtain some sort of crazy purpose, then we will finally be someone we can be proud of... and maybe God will be too.  

But that’s just what the enemy wants you to think!

It’s not about becoming someone else, but it’s about getting rid of all the junk, baggage and concerns of this world so that our true selves can be made known and brought into the light. 

And that is when you begin your journey of purpose.

When you truly understand who you are as a Royal Daughter of the Most High God, then you won’t be chasing after a false sense of purpose, wandering around from place to place, seeking some sort of validation. But rather, you will walk with a courage that is not your own, fully convinced that the plans for your future are good and sure.

For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
— Jeremiah 29:11

There’s no reason to doubt God’s heart for your future if you know He loves you and is for you. You won’t journey towards something (or someone) if you don’t think it will be for your good. 

I challenge you to embrace the journey ahead.

Stop looking to the right or to the left. You will never find out what God has called you to do by looking at what God has called HER to do. Keep your eyes on the One who directs your steps and He will lead you down paths that will far exceed your wildest imagination. 

I think God loves taking ordinary people and putting them in extraordinary places.

That is why trusting God is so vital to finding and living out your purpose. You don’t want to find out what He has called you to do, only to try to make it happen yourself and fail. I don’t believe it’s ever too late to put your trust in God and He is more than able to restore the lost years back to you. But why not start now? Why not begin again today and leap wholeheartedly into the plans He has for you? 

You can trust God with your purpose because He is a good Father who loves you very much. The only reason you have dreams in the first place is because He gave them to you. He loves dream-chasing with us but first, we must become people who can carry those dreams in our hearts. 

God is not hiding your purpose from you.

As you seek Him first, your purpose will be revealed in that relationship, and it will continue to flourish as you continue to trust Him. Your purpose is a partnership between you and the Holy Spirit. So talk to Him every once in a while. You might find that His plans are even crazier than your own.

Dream well…



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Should I Get Back Together with Him?


And then suddenly, he was gone... 

Just as quickly as he had come into my life, he left and it seemed like it was going to be forever. He was off chasing his big dreams while I was left standing there disappearing in his rearview mirror, quickly becoming a faded memory. It hurt me. It hurt bad. But then something happened. 


Not at first obviously... I cried, sulked and eventually started to move on with my life. I grew closer to God and learned more about the gifts he had given to me and the plans he had for me. I made new friends, finished school; I even went on my very own adventure with God and moved to Saint Petersburg, Russia for six months (highly recommend)! However, after about two years, something happened that I would have never guessed. Yep, he was back and I would have a decision to make. 

Now I'm not going to lie, I had dreamt of this moment for a LONG time. But when it finally happened, I didn't quite know what to do. Looking back on it now, I wish I had handled myself with a little more grace and tact, but hey, what's a girl to do? I was a bit shocked to put it lightly...

But thinking back to that moment, I realized that there's probably a lot of girls out there who have had to deal with a situation like this, or perhaps you will soon! But really, how do you navigate this anyways? What do you do when everything you thought you wanted walks away from you and then walks back? How do you know if you're making the same stupid decisions as before or if this is just another chapter of your story you'll tell your grandkids someday? Where's the guide book on this thing? 

I'm not sure there can ever be a guidebook and I'm certainly not an expert, but I do believe that there are some important things to consider before making a decision like this that we don't always think about in the heat of the moment.

So, here are some vital questions to ask yourself before saying yes to him... again:

1. Why do you want to be with him? 

It may sound like a simple and unimportant question, but what would your answer be? Is it rooted in fear of abandonment, worry about what other people may think or unsure that anyone else will ever accept you? Your answer may surprise you and it could help uncover your true intentions for being with the guy. 

2. What was your relationship with God like while you were together? 

This one I can say was a good red flag for me. A lot of times when I would start dating a guy, I realized (not till much later) that I wasn't really pursuing God much anymore. Looking back, I think I knew if I sought God about the relationship, He would say no. So it was just easier to not ask. But how silly is that? We keep praying for God to send us a man we can spend our lives with and then we resist him if He may not like what we grabbed? God will always lead you into what is best for you, including the right guy. 

3. Do you both want to chase each other's dreams? 

This is huge! I know it may seem a bit "far off in the future" to be thinking about, but I can think of nothing more miserable than to end up with someone who didn't support my dreams or whose dreams I didn't love. So much of marriage is teaming up with your best friend to go take on the world together, one adventure at a time. Can you truly do that with someone who thinks your dreams are beneath him, or unimportant or prideful? 

You may think it's a bit extreme, but how does he see your dreams? Does he support you? Does he encourage you? Is he seeking God about the dreams that are on his heart? There's a lot of amazing people out there in the world, but they won't all understand you and your heart in the way that special person will. Trust me, he's worth the wait. 

4. What do close and respectable friends and family think? 

The key words here being close and respectable. I'm not talking about your roommates who just love to gossip or your crazy family who never have anything encouraging to say. I remember when I was dating this guy, my friends were supportive, but I could tell they didn't like it. I thought I had to stand up for my relationship and defend it to the world (something a lot of us girls tend to do) but these were the girls who knew me best and whether I realized or not, they loved me. 

When I finally started to date Jeff, it was almost weird how everyone was so supportive saying things like, "yeah, it's about time," or "you guys are just the greatest couple." That was all new territory for me and it almost threw me off. Just make sure you're not letting a false sense of "staying strong with your man" keep you from a love story others can see too. 

5. What is God saying to you? 

Yes, you can hear the voice of God. If you've been believing the lie that you can't or your not holy enough yet, then you need to throw that out right now. The bible says that his sheep hear his voice. So if you're born-again, you can hear and follow after the wisdom of your Heavenly Father. And guess what? He cares! Yes, he cares about your messy love life, every twist, turn, and sometimes scary part of it. It's all part of your story and he cares very much about it being written well.

So spend some time with God and ask Him what He thinks. Ask Him if this relationship is healthy and if it's His absolute best. This isn't selfish at all because if this guy isn't the best God has for you, then guess what sweet cheeks, you aren't the absolute best for him! Protect both of your hearts and seek after the advice of the best advisor around. 

6. Are you operating in fear or peace? 

I would say that for most of my relationships I was operating in legit FEAR. It was almost as if as soon as a guy liked me, the goal was set before me. And once he asked me out, I knew I was worth his attention. When this particular guy came cruising back into my life, I had to think about each senerio and consider how I felt about it. 

To be honest, I had spent so much time acting out of fear I'm not sure I was able to recognize it. But what I did know was the peace of God. It was the same peace I felt when I decided to move from Georgia to Colorado Springs after graduating High School to go to Bible College. It was the same peace I had when I decided to move to Russia in the middle of winter. And it was the same peace I felt when I decided I didn't want to get back together with him. 

Now I am NOT saying to just simply follow your emotions.

Peace is not an emotion so much as it is a knowing that this is the right thing.

And if all else fails and my world crashes down around me, I know this was the right decision. Peace is also a fruit of the Spirit. So if you want to be able to follow your peace, you need to get with God and start growing that fruit. It's in you but you won't experience it unless you draw it out. 

So... should you get back together with him?

Well, I wish I could tell you… but I can't. Only you can make this decision but you don't have to make it alone. God cares very much about who you end up with and He is VERY protective over your heart. The last thing on this earth He wants is to see it get broken and He will be with you every step of the way. 

These are not a set of rules to live by but simply some questions to consider when making this very big decision. I said no, but when I did finally meet the right guy, it seemed like all the rules had changed again! I'm not sure there are any rules; there's no map that will work with every guy all the time. That's why you need a relationship with Jesus and you need to stay close to Him. He will be the one to guide you through the tangled mess of love and men. 

He's the one who led me to say no this particular time but He's also the one who told me that my heart would be safe with Jeff. By the time the right guy came along, I was so full of fear that I couldn't trust every emotion I was feeling. But I could trust His voice. And His voice is the one who will lead you into the greatest love story you have ever known. 

You are worth a great love story. Never doubt that.

But you'll also be writing this story with a very imperfect guy (Prince or not). No man can reach the standard of Jesus. Allow yourself to be loved by Him, and only then will you be ready for the right guy to come along.

It may be this one, or it may not be. But what you must always remember is that you are a treasure to someone and that's who you're waiting for. 

Cling to Jesus and I promise you that He will write this story well. 


5 Things the Enemy Doesn't Want You to Know About Who You Are

Satan had made it his aim to distract you from who you really are and what the purpose of your life really is. It is his focused objective to lure you out of the path of strength, life, and authority and into a course of intentional destruction.
— Lisa Bevere, Girl's with Swords

One of the most common tactics of the enemy is to come against who you truly are, who God says you are. We assume, "That's too good to be true," or "Well I'm just not that holy… not one of those spiritual elite." We exclude ourselves from the love and promises of God and then wonder why we don't feel very close to him. 

You see, all of your power in this life is wrapped up in your identity - a royal daughter of God, fiercely loved, uniquely formed and vital to the greater story on this earth. But if the enemy can lead you to believe that you must earn this love (something we all make mistakes in), that there is not really anything special about you and your role on this earth is one more of an ensemble than a leading role, then you will not only live a below-destined life, but you won't even try! This is his plan. 

But the truth of your identity is not hidden from you, it's been revealed in God's word, scribed in heaven and resides on the inside of your spirit this day. You can know who you truly are and in doing so, unlock your power, purpose and the unique role that is your's alone to take. 

Don't let the enemy have the final say in your life. The only way his words have power over you is if you accept them into your life as truth. So here are five things the enemy does NOT want you to know about who you are. Go over each one and ask yourself if you truly believe it, if this is a foundation in your life. It's time the Daughters of God stop playing hostage to the enemy's lies and truly believe everything their Heavenly Maker says over them. 


1. You were created on purpose

You formed my innermost being, shaping my delicate inside and my intricate outside, and wove them all together in my mother’s womb. I thank you, God, for making me so mysteriously complex... How thoroughly you know me, Lord!
— Psalm 139:13-14

No matter how you feel, or what your circumstances might suggest, you are not an accident to God. You're not even a disappointment to Him, a sloppy seconds that He didn't see coming. Your heart was hand-stitched in secret and splendidly revealed to this world. Your Father chose you before the foundations of the earth and He never chooses incorrectly. 

There are plans written over your life and a purpose you were created for that no one else in this world was designed to do. Don't get distracted by what someone else has or what you lack, but begin to see with your own eyes what your King has revealed in you: a stunning glimpse into His own heart that only you can reveal to this world. 


2. You have a unique beauty to unveil 

You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes...
— Song of Solomon 4:9

I know this area of our lives is a tough one for most of us to fully grasp, but we must if we are going to be a light in this incredibly hazy world. No matter what you see in the mirror, no matter how frizzy or underwhelming your hair seems to be, and no matter what your Instagram feed measures up to, you have a unique beauty to unveil. Meaning you won't find it while searching out what everyone else has. 

God designed every detail of you and He decided that it was good. Do you really think God makes mistakes? That His creations would suffer from a lack of interest or follow-through on His end? No... He is the Master Craftsman and He doesn't make mistakes. 

On the outside, you are a magnificent creation, a holy temple set aside for good works, and a dwelling place for the Spirit of the Living God. Think about that; God Almighty decided to take up residence in you. And He said He would never leave you nor forsake you. He's in this for the long haul baby. Talk about commitment! 

You also have an inward beauty that speaks of the heart of your Maker. There is a piece of God's nature that can only be revealed through a woman's heart and another piece that you uniquely reflect. Don't dim His light in you because you wish you had someone else's. Shine His beauty and your's too will be revealed. 


3. You have a vital role to play in this story 

I believe that the attacks on your life have much more to do with who you might be in the future than who you have been in the past.
— Lisa Bevere, Girls with Swords

There is a much bigger story going on than the ones we obsess over. Good versus evil, love verses hate, redemption versus destruction. The story continues and you have a vital role to play, one that is your's alone to take.

The enemy would have you believe that there is nothing truly significant about your life on this earth. But he never wastes time attacking what he is not threatened by and there is something on your life that terrifies him. 

The attacks on your life have more to do with who you might be in the future than who you have been in the past. It's time we take up our swords and choose faith in the story scribed in heaven for us, bringing it into our reality. God wrote it, but we must choose it and we must continue to choose Him. 


4. You are sealed by true love 

This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.
— 1 John 4:10

One of the most sacred truths that the enemy wants you to never know is that there is nothing you could ever do to make God stop loving you.. even for just a moment, even just a little bit less. God's love wasn't based on your actions to begin with. After all, He did die for your sins over 2,000 years ago and I'm pretty sure you weren't around to earn that either. 

God's love is not a medal to be won, but a gift to be received. If I thought my husband only ever did stuff for me because he thought it would make me love him, and then when he did something wrong he pulled away from me, it would break my heart. How much more does a perfect Heavenly Father love us, His cherished creation? 

So here's a truth you can hold on to, God is bigger than your past. Stop giving it power over you. There is nothing you could do to make God love you more, just as there is nothing you could do to make God love you less. Yes, there are still things we do that may change the way we view God, but God's view never is shifted or foggy. He chose you and He'll never change His mind. 

The cross sealed your separation forever. There once was a separation between you and God (not one of His doing) but because of the sacrifice of Jesus, it no longer exists and there is nothing stopping you from a relationship with Him. No sin, no shame, no lack of good deeds can ever come between you again. 


5. You are crowed in royalty 

If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.
— C.S. Lewis

You were not created for this world - fallen, corrupt, sinful. But you are destined for another one, a new one that will be revealed to us soon enough. But until then, we are ambassadors for God, placed on this earth to combat the workings of darkness and reveal the true heart of our Father. 

You have authority over all the works of the devil and Jesus has given us His name to use in His place. You have a glorious future ruling and reigning with your Maker and there is nothing the enemy can do to change that. You are positioned not here, but seated next to Christ in heaven, a position of royalty and peace. The war is over and Jesus has won. Don't let the enemy fool you into thinking you are fighting a losing battle. You may have lost a few battles but Jesus has won the war. Cling to this and you will never be defeated. 

The greatest battles we will face in this life are the ones waging in our minds.

It says in John 8:32 that you will know the truth and the truth will set you free. But you see it's only the truth you truly KNOW that is going to produce freedom in your life. Cling to these five truths as if they were jewels, write them on the tablet of your heart, post them up across your mirror. Get these words down in your soul so deeply that when the enemy does come to deceive you, you won't be fooled. You'll be armed with truth, fighting your battles well. 

Don't focus so hard on what not to think about or what you should be doing. Instead, focus on what God says about you and your battles will become less about you and more about Him. After all, true freedom lies in knowing him. And as you get to know him, you might just start learning a bit more about yourself... your truest self. 

Fight these battles well.


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It’s time to awaken to who you truly are!