When You Marry a REALLY Big Dreamer
"I'm sorry," said Lillian Disney to her husband Walt. "You can't call a mouse Mortimer."
"Why not?" asked Walt. "I used to have a mouse in my old studio in Kansas City, I called him Mortimer."
"No," said Lillian. "Mortimer Mouse, It's not catchy enough. Change it to Mickey."
You know the saying, Behind every great man is a great woman and I'm sure Mr. Walt Disney was no exception. Being attracted to a passionate, driven and ambitious guy is a good thing and as godly women, we were created to be drawn to it.
God created men with an ambitious nature, one that propels them to achieve great things for God's glory and for their families. But I don't think I truly realized until after I got married just how big my husband's dreams were. And what a huge honor it was that he would choose me to be the one beside him.
I've always considered myself to be a pretty big dreamer but it wasn't until I met Jeff that I began to really push myself in the direction of my dreams, believing that they were achievable and that I was meant to reach them. Even while we were just friends, there was something about him that made me want to think bigger in my life. His very passion instills passion in others.
But once I became his wife, I suddenly, without realizing it, began to see his dreams as competition for his attention.
After all, when a man is driven, he becomes laser focused. That's how he got me, right? Those 3 years of pursuing certainly took some passion, focus and drive. But now that he had me, and because I was a new wife and didn't understand much about marriage, I found myself looking to him to fulfill me and would get insecure when I would put myself up next to his dreams.
Jeff wasn't comparing me to them. If anything, he saw me as a part of his dreams. But when we grow to depend on someone's undying attention, and they fail to give you all of it (an impossible and unrealistic expectation) it becomes easy to compare yourself to every other thing in this world that demands any part of his attention.
I believe that the person you marry becomes uniquely tied into your destiny and purpose on this earth.
So if the enemy can't stop you from dreaming, then he'll try and get you to see the other's dreams as your competition. After all, you were meant to come alongside each other, support each other and ultimately, be a part of fulfilling the other's dreams. But if I just see myself as a competitor, then I risk making Jeff feel like he has to choose between us. And that's NOT what I want at all!
I love his huge dreams. I love his creative mind and I love how well we work together. I would have to say that I'm just as excited about fulfilling Jeff's dreams as I am fulfilling my own! In fact, a lot of my dreams in life now have to do with his dreams. I think this is such a huge part of marriage that isn't talked about too often. You're each others' best friend, soul mate, lover, encourager, roommate, partner in life and their fellow dream-chaser.
Make sure you marry someone who has dreams that you can chase.
We were all put on this earth for a purpose. Make sure that you link arms with someone that you can be excited to run with, someone who challenges you with the way they think and perceive the world. And make sure that their first passion and drive is for God. That way, you'll never have to worry if his dreams surpass you in his heart.
You were never meant to be inferior to your husband's dreams, but you were always meant to play an irreplaceable role in them.
Don't let the enemy scare you into a place of insecurity. You were designed to protect and defend your husband's heart. After all, to get to the man, the enemy will have to take out his woman. Don't let him!
So here's to the dreamers! Never let insecurity keep you from playing the role you were always meant to fill. The enemy wouldn't try so hard to get you down if he wasn't terrified of what you might empower your husband to do. Because together, dreams become a reality.