How to Keep Your Virtue as a Christian Girl

Staying Pure | Godly Womanhood | Single Advice

It can be tough being a Christian single girl in today's world. With so many mixed messages and short cuts to happiness, it takes diligence, persistence and intentionality to keep your virtue in an immoral and ever-changing society. But is there even a way for a girl to hold on to her virtue and if so, what does that even look like? 

Instead of going to the world to understand our identity as women, let's go to God's word to learn about who we were created to be. 

An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her? Her value is more precious than jewels and her worth is far above rubies or pearls.
— Proverbs 31:10 AMP

Spiritual, capable, intelligent, virtuous - these are the words that our God chooses to describe his daughters and they should be the words we hold before us as a mirror of who we truly are. These are also what God gives to men as traits to look for in a Godly wife. So if you're trying to land a Godly guy, then make sure your heart is alligned with his word. Who you become is what you'll attract. 

Her husband... praises her, saying, “Many daughters have done nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], But you excel them all.”
— Proverbs 31:28-29 AMP

I think most of us, when we dream about the day we'll be married, we don't picture ourselves as easy, flirtatious and risqué women. But rather, as Christians, we hope to be the woman our husband is proud of, someone he can trust and rely on, someone other women look up to and depend on. But trust me, nothing magical happens the moment you say "I Do." The woman you are now is the woman you'll be then. 

You can't live two lives. The woman you are now is the wife you're preparing to be. 

Sure we're all growing. There's no doubting that! I don't think I'm the same girl I was last week let alone 8 months ago when I got married. We all grow, but we get to choose what kind of person we will grow into. 

Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised.
— Proverbs 31:30 AMP

Physical beauty fades and is never a proper measure of your worth. The Top 100 Most Beautiful Women in the World from last year didn't make the cut this year. God measures beauty on a far more tender scale and he decided that you were worth making his own. 

As we dive into the word, we can clearly see that there are some MAJOR difference between a worldly woman and a virtuous woman. People will try and tell you that you're old-fashioned, that you need to get with the program. These people are never there for you when you get your heart broken but God will always be there for you. Therefore you can trust his direction for your life. 

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
— Proverbs 4:23 NLT

The decisions you make with your virtue today will affect the condition of your heart tomorrow. 

Guard your heart with the same fierce conviction that you will someday guard your husband's. After all, it's for him that your saving it for. Your heart will determine the course of your life and we all choose what we will allow into our hearts and what we will not. Virtue is not so much what you do with your body as it is what you allow in your heart. If you will keep your heart alligned with God and his word, your body will follow. Nothing happens on the outside without it happening first on the inside. 

Hold fast to virtue, for it's worth is far more than rubies and pearls. As a christian girl, virtue is a part of your DNA. Don't let the enemy steal what is rightfully yours. Know who you are and the value you carry, even if it means living against the crowd. You were born to stand out anyway. 

xxo, 

Jess 

All You Need Is Love

They say that falling in love is risky; that it takes some amount of courage and bravery to open yourself up to the possibility of rejection. But I think that part of the risk involved is in the idea that it might actually work out. And when it does, you realize that you can't love someone on your own, but you have to open up to someone you can't see or touch. By faith, we receive the love God has for us, and from that, we trust Him to love the people in our lives through us. 

Whenever something is out of my control, it makes me uncomfortable. But one of the definitions of faith could be to believe in something you can't control. The power of love is bigger than all of us, and so it takes someone much bigger than us to guide us in how to love. 

One of the most important things I have learned throughout my relationship is that I am powerless to love someone the way they deserve to be loved, but the good news is I'm never alone. When I feel weak in my own ability, God's strength is made perfect in me. I don't know how He does it, but He always manages to save the day. I guess that's just part of being a Savior and all. 

"Some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity..."

-Gilda Radner

Life truly is about the journey and taking in every moment until it grows you into the person you only dreamed of becoming. To be honest, nothing in my life has turned out the way I originally thought it would and I'm so thankful. This life is more beautiful, loving, complicated, unexpected, adventurous, and fulfilling than I could ever have hoped for. God knows the story you were meant to live and He'll write it beautifully if you'll let Him. All you need is love, and He's got plenty of it. 

Also, it's officially 5 months till the wedding! I just had to throw that in there :) 

Our jam walking the trails... Happy Sunday!